Mothers Know Best—Yes, Even When You Disagree

There is a sacred instinct that blooms in a woman the moment she becomes a mother. It’s not always loud. It doesn't always come with a manual. But it’s there—rooted in love, sharpened by sleepless nights, and fueled by the fierce, unwavering desire to protect.

And yet, somehow… somehow, it seems to be the one voice everyone tries to silence.

Let me be clear: a mother’s decision for her child is not a suggestion for public debate.

Whether it’s about feeding, sleeping, screen time, pacifiers, vaccines, kisses, visitors, or simply saying no—what she says goes. Not because she’s stubborn. Not because she’s insecure. But because she knows her child. She’s tuned into the little coos and cries and needs in ways no one else ever will. She is the one on the frontlines. She is the calm in the storm. She is the home base.

It is mind-blowing how many people think they know better than a mother does about her own child.

And I’m not talking about well-meaning suggestions. I’m talking about people who push. Who dismiss. Who scoff. Who say, "Well, when I had kids..." or "You’re being overprotective..." or "You need to let go a little."

No, thank you.

This isn’t 1983. It’s not your child. It’s not your call.

New moms—especially—are constantly navigating a battlefield of opinions. And it’s exhausting. What they need is support. Respect. A gentle reminder that they’re doing great, not a lecture on what you would do differently.

So here’s your reminder:

• You don’t have to agree with a mom’s choices to respect them.

• You don’t have to understand her reasons to honor them.

• You don’t have to be a parent yourself to simply say, “I trust you to do what’s best.”

If your advice, opinion, or actions go against a mom’s clearly stated wishes—especially when it comes to her child—then you’re not helping. You’re overstepping. Period.

To the moms out there who are tired of justifying their decisions:

You don’t need to explain. You don’t need to soften the blow. You are allowed to set boundaries without guilt. You are the expert on your baby.

And if no one’s said it today:

Mama, you’re doing it right. Keep listening to your gut. Keep protecting your peace. You are not overreacting—you're mothering.